No matter how many times it was demanded I lighten up, calm down, go with the flow and get over it, I just still did not.
The Distortion: “If you’re hurting, it’s because you’re weak or defective—not because I hurt you.” So when someone like this does cause harm: They don’t see themselves as responsible. They…
What Is Emotional Colonization? Emotional colonization happens when one person (or a system) assumes ownership over another’s emotional reality. It’s not just control—it’s the rewriting, minimizing, or overtaking of your internal world in…
Stonewalling breaks me. Stonewalling breaks me. I don’t bounce back from it. But I’ve repeatedly and predictably returned for more. Hopefully, for the last time. The silent treatment and banishment…
Drawn to the Closed Door I’ve come to understand something about myself, and it’s both painful and clarifying: I gravitate toward people who use silence as a weapon. Stonewalling—cold, controlled,…