Repair Avoidance Isn’t Conflict Avoidance
When Repair Is Impossible, So Is Security I heard it said today—and I’ve also read it—that secure attachment can only exist where people can be counted on to go back…
When Repair Is Impossible, So Is Security I heard it said today—and I’ve also read it—that secure attachment can only exist where people can be counted on to go back…
How Contempt Gets Modeled and Inherited What happens when alignment with one parent supports the rejection of the other? What I’m experiencing with my son doesn’t feel like a sudden…
When pain makes it impossible to stay in my role, It’s as if I’ve tripped an invisible wire—and it unleashes a silent detonation beneath the surface, warning:Forget your place—and pay.“Who do you…
The Distortion: “If you’re hurting, it’s because you’re weak or defective—not because I hurt you.” So when someone like this does cause harm: They don’t see themselves as responsible. They…