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In some families, preserving the system can mean discrediting the person who points out harm. The scapegoat’s experience is often dismissed to maintain control and avoid accountability.

When Nothing Happens but Everything Hurts: Living With a Nervous System on High Alert

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:December 21, 2025
Post category:Neurodivergent Living The Scapegoat's Perspective Trauma

An Ordinary Moment, a Trauma Response My lived experience offered no assurance that I—or anything—would be okay. At a subconscious level, I suspected I might have less trouble if I…

Triangulation occurs when communication is routed through others instead of addressed directly, creating confusion, loyalty conflicts, and distance.

The Quiet Damage of Triangulation

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:December 18, 2025
Post category:coercive control dirty secrets Neurodivergent Living The Scapegoat's Perspective Trauma

Over the years, my children’s father, my mother, and my sister communicated and met without me. This alliance was formed in the shadows. There was no pre‑existing relationship between my…

For anyone who has ever mistaken being pursued for being valued — you weren’t chosen. You were targeted. I wish I had known this sooner.

The Season of Losing What I Thought I Needed

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:November 19, 2025
Post category:coercive control Love Bombing Neurodivergent Living The Scapegoat's Perspective Trauma

Loving the Hologram: A Season of Letting Go This season—honestly, my entire life—has been one of loss and unraveling. And I feel self‑conscious about that, because in a world low…

When Difference Is Treated as Defiance

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:November 4, 2025
Post category:Neurodivergent Living The Scapegoat's Perspective

When “Being Right” Replaces Being Human On Saturdays, I meet with a small group of politically engaged people, holding signs aimed at sparking awareness. My sign reads: “Dignity for All.”…