If the people we looked to for love and protection imposed traumatic shame for our failure to conform or submit, that was a breach of their power. They were wrong.…
Having believed that “I. Am. THE. Problem”-- the designated cause for other people's shame, pain, hostile silence, cruel words, and overall mental health could only be relieved through recovery and repair.…
When you are raised having your words and feelings ignored, dismissed, challenged and twisted to be used against you, you may, as I did, dedicate much time to seeking the…
The messages of non-love which are cruelly and generously heaped upon my boys, by older members of their genetic families, require daily dispelling. The demystification is endless and I am…