Stonewalling and gaslighting feel like techniques intended to erase a person. To obliterate their spirit. Stonewalling is a tactic used to control, isolate, humiliate, and frustrate someone for attempting to…
In their young efforts to comfort my despair over George Floyd, my boys offered this: “Mom, he did have meth in his system and had been previously arrested for armed assault…
My steady refusal of gifts and staged harmony—in place of healing, repair, and honest connection—made something clear: I was no longer willing to bypass necessary mending. Real healing would have…
Torture—unlike abuse, which is often spontaneous and unintentional, though still scarring—is premeditated. It is designed to methodically dismantle a person’s identity and humanity. To destroy safety. To diminish hope for…