The one who refuses to carry the family secrets, breaks generational cycles, and seeks a path of sovereign truth over toxic belonging.

Perspectives

Schema, perspective, experience, understanding… wow. My younger son and I differ in many beautiful ways, and some difficult ones, and he’s a great teacher for me. When I broke up…

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Big Triggers

I’ve resumed journaling — rigorously, of course, because I tend to do things either with full intensity or not at all. With this man, a widower who lost the love…

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Good, better, and not enough

Last week, Ed, my friend from the mountains, visited for our week together and we had such a nice time doing the most basic shit. Yardwork, making food, checking out…

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A family scapegoat isn’t created because one person is broken, but because the system resists looking at what’s hurting it.

Cycles of Healing

I wouldn’t have chosen the things that harmed me, but I’m grateful and proud of how I’m allowing myself to be shaped by them. Recovery keeps teaching me about mercy,…

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