Magda Gee, Author at Wholesome Badass

Today is Difficult

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:December 6, 2016
Post category:Surviving Narcissistic Abuse

I have received information- more of the sort which I feel unable to accept or change. I feel knocked down. With two little guys that count on me to get back up, I…

Love a Promise, Not an Emotion

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:December 5, 2016
Post category:Surviving Narcissistic Abuse

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When my boys were 5 and 6 years old, after the successive passing of two acquaintances and our family pet-

S2: Why did they die?

Me: When our bodies grow too tired and weak, our bodies die and we go to Heaven.

S1: Does it hurt?

Me: I don’t think so. We arrive whole and healthy again in Heaven-a place where all things are good, nobody is sick, mean, afraid or hurting. In Heaven, we are with those whom we love and who love us.

S2: Will King Simon get his eye back? Me: Yes, he will have both of his eyes.

S1: Do bad guys go to heaven?

Me: They do. Doing bad things is part of their brokenness and in Heaven, they are no longer broken.

S2: Do we still have to take naps?

Me: Only when we feel like it.

S1: Will you will get there before us?

Me: Typically mommies and daddies go first.

S1: How will we find you?

Me: It will be like when I pick you up from school- you are waiting behind the gate and we just find each other. I will be there. They were satisfied with that. So. Am. I.(This makes me cry each time I consider it) (more…)

Fearless Authenticity-I Heart the Dowager

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:December 4, 2016
Post category:Surviving Narcissistic Abuse

Watching DTA in binge fashion, I find myself utterly and madly in love with The Dowager. Her values and poise, I do not relate to-- Irresistibly lovable for her priceless authenticity- unyielding…

Kindness Comes from the Kind-hearted

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:December 3, 2016
Post category:Acceptance Faith Intimacy Self-Love Surviving Narcissistic Abuse

screen-shot-2016-12-06-at-9-13-12-pm A lovely couple, from two doors down, welcomed us to the community with a platter of warm, loving cookies-and have remained consistently kind-hearted, available, and interested. To me, this is both humbling and remarkable. People often present as “friendly” for the sake of the optical but are often simultaneously disinterested and unkind.

I am definitely not a friendly person by nature. But– I have learned to be kind–not to be confused with: being social, people pleasing, or willing to hustle for my worth. Lacking a need to be perceived as friendly, people concerned with appearances are ~~threatened~~ confused by me. Trusted Others –recognize this: Not always wearing a smile, I will help any person in need, without being asked and regardless if I like or “approve” of them. (more…)