What Shame Does
Nothing good has ever come from shame in my life. It never faded on its own, and when I didn’t face it, it made me unwell — and it spilled…
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September 22, 2020
The one who refuses to carry the family secrets, breaks generational cycles, and seeks a path of sovereign truth over toxic belonging.
uniformity v. solidarity
"You are either in agreement with (like) us or against us." That mentality is the ancestral curse I am working to crush, one day at a time. Before recovery, my intense,…
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August 26, 2020
What is Schadenfreude?
Though I am intimately familiar with the energy and attitudes I’ve always identified in the “serves you right” types, I only just discovered the term Schadenfreude. I find it fascinating there…
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August 2, 2020
Kindness Is Not ConditionalI Had to Learn That Kindness Cannot Be EarnedKindness Is Not Conditional
In relationships, if it is conditional, it is not kind. Nothing was more confused and distorted than my early ideas about kindness and connection. For more decades than I care…
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July 23, 2020