Magda Gee, Author at Wholesome Badass

Kindness Is Not ConditionalI Had to Learn That Kindness Cannot Be EarnedKindness Is Not Conditional

In relationships, if it is conditional, it is not kind. Nothing was more confused and distorted than my early ideas about kindness and connection. For more decades than I care…

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July 23, 2020

Trauma

Shut Up or Else: The Machinery of Control

Like a lightning bolt, it struck me again—how extremists cannot tolerate peaceful protest or resistance. To them, nonconformity is hostility. Resistance is war. “You are either with me or against…

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July 13, 2020

Trauma

Gaslighting, Stonewalling, and the Machinery of Control

Stonewalling and gaslighting feel like techniques intended to erase a person. To obliterate their spirit. Stonewalling is a tactic used to control, isolate, humiliate, and frustrate someone for attempting to…

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July 1, 2020

Mindful Parenting / Surviving Narcissistic Abuse

When Victims Are Put on Trial

In their young efforts to comfort my despair over George Floyd, my boys offered this: “Mom, he did have meth in his system and had been previously arrested for armed assault…

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June 23, 2020