In my tagline, I reveal myself as navigating the storm of neurodivergence, trauma, and toxic family systems. For the archetypes with whom I have navigated strife or rupture, I imagine this perspective may feel unwelcome because it adds context to
I have been circling the relationship between attachment, connection, and repair. I understand now how it is possible for me to feel deeply—and painfully—attached to someone and still have no genuine access: the unbearable absence of mutual kindness, curiosity, emotional
The archetypal persona seems to move through every telling of their own life with access to explanations they do not extend to anyone else. When they prevail, it reflects strength, intelligence, resilience, discernment, character. When they do not, the result
I am increasingly interested in the archetypal persona—the kind of person for whom being, or even appearing, incorrect, uncertain, or imperfect seems almost unthinkable. Like what happens when being seen as good, right, or infallible is key to the archetypal
For most of my life, I could see the individual friction points but not the structure they shared. I experienced them as isolated interactions. A misunderstanding. A rupture. A person who was displeased with me (and seemingly intent on making
In my family of origin, and then quite unsurprisingly in the marriage I chose, I re-enacted the familiar pattern. I accepted the charge for all discomfort—mine and everybody’s. If only I would’ve just gotten different, as was directed so very
If I can rattle your cage and then stand beside your reaction looking calm and reasonable, I can create a defining contrast: you unstable; me credible. Your distress is excellent leverage. I get to have my way with you and come out
I am beginning to recognize and more effectively name and navigate familiar systems, patterns, and personalities. In power imbalances, the person with more status or authority can seem even more credible when appearing almost completely unaffected — mildly inconvenienced at