2025 (1)

• 23. January / Purpose, Belonging, Direction

2024 (22)

• 16. October / Just Shut Up
• 15. October / I’m not angry. I’m overwhelmed.
• 03. October / Accuracy of Language
• 03. October / Rupture and Repair
• 30. September / Breakdown or Breakthrough
• 29. September / National Son’s Day
• 18. September / Healing and Living
• 16. September / Truthful vs Honest
• 15. September / Just Be Positive
• 08. September / Why a Smear Campaign?
• 07. September / Painful Reminders
• 03. September / Fallout from The Love Bomb
• 02. September / Blessings and Privilege
• 02. September / A New Low
• 01. September / Several Things
• 01. September / What if?
• 18. August / More More More – PLEASE
• 19. April / Wax Play?
• 24. February / Rehash- ReCap
• 24. February / Hit and Run and CPTSD
• 18. January / Categorically and Inherently Wrong
• 02. January / Bad Economy

2023 (21)

• 24. December / Better Not Cry- Better Not Pout
• 05. November / Holding On– But also letting go
• 14. October / Goals, Ambition, Mental Health
• 05. October / How Do I Handle This?
• 26. September / Trojan Horse(repost from 2017)
• 24. August / The Pain We Do Not Heal(re-post from 2018)
• 22. August / If you can’t convince them, confuse them(re-post)
• 22. August / A Different Kind Of Sex(re-post)
• 01. August / Public Service Announcement
• 29. July / Shame and Guilt and Fear
• 29. July / Perspectives
• 26. July / Roles and Scripts
• 11. July / New Dynamics
• 26. June / Like a Moth to a Flame
• 17. June / Big Triggers
• 10. June / Trolling for Love on Match.com
• 13. May / Good, better, and not enough
• 09. April / Relax- Calm Down
• 08. April / My Friend in the Mountains
• 12. March / New Love- Old Wounds
• 12. February / It Is Like This

2022 (37)

• 31. December / Held and Free
• 24. December / Scapegoating- How it begins
• 17. December / AMEN(ds)
• 11. November / Cycles of Healing
• 06. August / Dog Whistling
• 05. August / My First Bullies
• 27. July / Are you seriously still talking about it?
• 26. July / Out Of My Control- In My Control
• 17. July / dis-GRACEd
• 14. July / Amazing Grace
• 14. July / Stuff that is important to me
• 11. July / In healthy, healing, loving family systems…
• 07. July / She would never say it, but…
• 05. July / Dear Maggie
• 04. July / July 4
• 12. June / YOU ARE THE ONLY PROBLEM!!!
• 30. May / Things Learned
• 29. May / Blind Spots- We All Have Them
• 27. May / Circling The Drain
• 16. May / Just Another List
• 12. May / Unfit
• 08. May / Goals
• 23. April / Why I Did IT
• 12. April / The Non-Redeemable
• 31. March / Get Well Soon—PLEASE
• 19. March / 60 Year Old Bearded Alcoholic Girlfriend
• 15. March / Maybe I Am
• 13. March / Perfection v. Self Reflection
• 11. March / The House Rules
• 12. February / Fuuuuuuuuuck
• 05. February / Narcissistic Bullying
• 01. February / Pathological Shaming
• 22. January / Want Sum?
• 20. January / Love Does & Does Not
• 18. January / Clean MRI
• 17. January / So Then
• 14. January / Wednesday Morning Text

2021 (45)

• 31. December / There are Some Good Things
• 28. December / WIATF?
• 26. December / December
• 21. December / On Fidelity
• 16. December / Good Input
• 07. December / Connection & Purpose
• 27. November / Mercy
• 26. November / JOYful Thanksgiving
• 25. November / Another Thanksgiving
• 17. November / Random Thoughts on Love, Parenting, & Truths
• 13. November / Why (subtext:You suck and are crazy and we disapprove of you)
• 11. November / Fight Starters 100% Guaranteed
• 01. November / Doing The Lord’s Work
• 31. October / Not A Great Fit
• 27. October / Daily Reminders
• 26. October / 2021 Happy Birthday
• 22. October / Choosing
• 08. October / The Commandments
• 03. October / Mental Health Awareness
• 26. September / Narcissists Seek Validation -Not Help
• 19. September / My Trauma is My Gift
• 18. September / Step ZERO
• 09. September / 9.11
• 05. September / Covid and the Narcissist
• 23. August / Proud and Protected
• 21. August / Hard To Love
• 07. August / Thoughtful Cruelty
• 17. July / Artificial Indifference
• 28. June / Today v. Yesterday
• 28. June / Fuck yoooooooooooooooo
• 03. June / Clearly
• 29. May / PTSD and Insanity
• 29. May / Me Tooooo
• 22. May / Risk Taking Mistake Making
• 18. May / Wrong Beliefs- A Mother’s Day Post
• 04. May / Depression and Sex
• 18. April / Alien
• 17. April / Trying
• 23. March / Anne Lamott – Recovery Badass
• 14. February / Mistakes Were Made But Not By Me
• 08. February / Big Shot
• 07. February / Night-Time
• 27. January / Smile GDI!
• 14. January / On Loyalty and Abuse
• 04. January / Happy New Year

2020 (66)

• 21. December / The Art of Plausible Deniability
• 15. December / Wish You Were Here
• 12. December / Tell the Truth
• 02. December / No Deal!
• 30. November / My JOB
• 19. November / Let Go or Be Dragged
• 04. November / Week Five
• 29. September / A Different Kind of Life
• 27. September / We Love Jilan
• 24. September / Cover Up!
• 22. September / What Shame Does
• 14. September / ACA Daily Reading January 12- Fear
• 13. September / ACA Daily Reading January 11- False Self
• 12. September / I Don’t Get It
• 09. September / Before Recovery
• 07. September / September 7
• 03. September / Introverting
• 26. August / uniformity v. solidarity
• 14. August / Pain
• 02. August / What is Schadenfreude?
• 26. July / Affiliations and Attachments
• 23. July / Kindness Is Not Conditional
• 13. July / Or Else — Bring it
• 01. July / Be The Reason
• 23. June / Mama
• 17. June / What We Choose
• 09. June / Torture
• 08. June / MY White Privilege
• 12. May / Things I struggle with
• 11. May / Twenty-five Things
• 05. May / I AM
• 02. May / Wrong But Not Bad
• 24. April / I Am Free
• 23. April / Who I Am
• 21. April / Hickeys and Large Pores
• 20. April / Yeh- No
• 13. April / How I Used To Be
• 10. April / You’ve Got to Be Carefully Taught
• 09. April / Serves You Right
• 08. April / Under The Influence
• 07. April / To Repair or Repaint
• 30. March / Gossip Culture
• 27. March / If it hurts me, it is bad for me
• 26. March / Incongruous Behaviors
• 25. March / The Five Rules
• 25. March / Self Doubt v. Purpose & Belonging
• 21. March / Look For The Helpers
• 20. March / Not So Classy
• 19. March / What is Wrong?
• 17. March / I Choose Corona Virus Over…
• 11. March / I Can Only Imagine
• 08. March / An Altruistic Donor
• 07. March / Liver Anyone?
• 29. February / Just Because
• 26. February / Emotionally Barbaric
• 24. February / Healing is Excruciating
• 18. February / To Struggle Is Human
• 03. February / Either Or
• 01. February / The Bare Minimum
• 28. January / I Will Change The Things I Can
• 15. January / Who Even Does That?
• 14. January / Bold and Sensitive
• 13. January / First Class
• 07. January / Raising a Modern-Day Knight
• 06. January / Learning to Say No to Yourself
• 03. January / What Sort of Person Behaves Like That?

2019 (58)

• 31. December / Bye Bye 2019
• 30. December / Recovering From The Family Disease
• 27. December / Back to Step One
• 26. December / No More
• 20. December / A Book Club Must Read
• 14. December / Boundaries Are Hard
• 11. December / Listen, Learn, Serve
• 09. December / Obedience to the Unenforceable
• 30. November / Eggshells are Easily Broken
• 27. November / Claiming Responsibility
• 18. November / Thank You for Letting Me Go
• 12. November / Freedom from THE Shame
• 08. November / Cycle Breaking–and the Fall Out
• 06. November / Better Living
• 24. October / Sweet Mercy
• 29. September / My Saddest Day
• 26. September / The Anatomy of Trust
• 21. September / Because I was Terrified
• 07. September / Fuck Shame
• 12. August / Love Does
• 28. July / Deselection
• 04. July / Repair or Repeat
• 04. July / Feeling Empowered
• 21. June / You Deserve Better
• 18. May / Sometimes The Solution Sucks
• 12. May / On Mother’s Day
• 21. April / “Happy” Easter
• 13. April / I Feel You—literally
• 18. March / An Inconvenient Child
• 04. March / Life and Love are Messy by Rachael Alaia
• 02. March / Are You an Empath?
• 02. March / Bye Mom
• 28. February / A Litany for Survival
• 19. February / Making Amends
• 18. February / Things Which Once Caused Me Shame
• 18. February / Goddammit Magda
• 17. February / Together, We Belong
• 15. February / The Exact Right Words
• 14. February / On Being Psycho
• 12. February / The Things We are Learning
• 11. February / Say Yikes and Move On!
• 07. February / Educated by Tara Westover
• 05. February / Unity v. Division
• 30. January / Learning to Belong
• 29. January / The Quality of My Thoughts
• 26. January / Formatting Errors v. Compatibility Issues
• 25. January / No Means No
• 24. January / Never say Never
• 20. January / You Can’t Make Me and Neither Can I
• 19. January / Trust in Kindness
• 14. January / Day 15 I Can Not Be Counted On
• 13. January / Day 14 Character Analysis
• 12. January / Day 13 Second-Handers
• 07. January / Day 8 Reflection
• 05. January / Atypical Day 6
• 03. January / Day 4 Schitt’s Creek
• 02. January / Day 3 The Fountainhead
• 01. January / 2019 Day 1

2018 (86)

• 31. December / No, But This Time I Mean It
• 21. December / Clear Boundaries are not Grudges
• 20. December / Are You My Mother?
• 17. December / Our Mother Who Art in Heaven
• 17. December / Social Media for Abuse Awareness
• 16. December / Pills That are Hard to Swallow
• 04. December / BUT WHY THO—Dear Mom
• 03. December / Rest In Peace
• 02. December / Fake Peace
• 25. November / This Is Not My Kingdom
• 24. November / Walls or Bridges
• 22. November / Gentle Thanksgiving
• 19. November / Being Human Means Making Mistakes
• 09. November / Boundaries and Being Non-Dead
• 06. November / How I Tricked Him Into Loving Me
• 02. November / Healing After and During Betrayal
• 29. October / Communicating Truth
• 26. October / Aha!
• 25. October / Happy Birthday ?
• 14. October / Why Lie
• 11. October / Some Letters
• 06. October / The Part Where You Fucked Up
• 02. October / The Smiling Poop Emoji
• 25. September / Grandma’s Favorite—awww so sweet, y’all
• 24. September / Thank Good Gods
• 23. September / Undeserving
• 10. September / Supporting Gay Tweens- Even when they are not “yours”
• 26. August / It is Not that I Don’t Care..
• 17. August / For the Love
• 14. August / Because Obviously
• 10. August / On Forgiving
• 03. August / Like-hearted
• 28. July / Are We Good?
• 26. July / Stand Your Ground
• 25. July / It Might Just Suck
• 23. July / On Bullying
• 22. July / First, Your Spirit
• 19. July / On Gossip
• 16. July / The Tightrope
• 12. July / Get Well Soon
• 09. July / Emergencies and Celebrations
• 09. July / The Opposite of Love
• 08. July / A Letter for Children
• 06. July / Life and Death
• 05. July / Independence Day
• 04. July / No Laughing Matter
• 03. July / We Learn What We Live
• 02. July / Low Blood Sugar and Anxiety
• 02. July / Be the Nice Kid
• 01. July / Indirect Communication
• 29. June / Problem or Unpleasant Fact–How to Know
• 28. June / Right, Wrong, or Just Human
• 26. June / We Belong to Each Other
• 25. June / But Why Though
• 24. June / You Do Not Have to Agree with Me to Love Me
• 23. June / Ambition or Denial
• 22. June / You Got What You Deserved
• 22. June / Six Things
• 17. June / When Bad Things Happen to Good People
• 10. June / Check Your Self- Sometimes You Are the Toxic Person
• 07. June / Mental Health–We all have mental health.
• 04. June / How to Achieve Menschdom by Guy Kawasaki
• 26. May / What is Love?
• 22. May / A Letter to My Sons
• 20. May / Abuse is Abuse
• 15. May / A Letter From My Sons
• 13. May / Courage to Change
• 11. May / happy mothers’ day
• 06. May / The Zero-Sum Game–Everyone Loses
• 03. May / Every Time I Judge
• 02. May / Recovery Celebrations
• 13. April / Best Days of Our Lives
• 05. April / Shame on Who(or whom)?
• 02. April / Get Over It—Umm Okaaay
• 29. March / DGAF–I Totally Give
• 28. March / I am sorry that…
• 12. March / Thank You for Teaching Me
• 21. February / The Legacy of Rage
• 16. February / Serves You Right
• 15. February / Parenting and Power Struggles
• 23. January / Food and Truth-In Abundance
• 19. January / We Can Do Hard Things
• 16. January / One Goal 100% of the Time
• 12. January / Am I an Asshole-I Don’t Think So(anymore)
• 05. January / Breakups
• 02. January / Shannon Thomas- Healing From Hidden Abuse

2017 (160)

• 27. December / They Belong Together
• 26. December / Sweet Surrender
• 19. December / Connection and Protection
• 18. December / It is Not About You
• 12. December / Name it To Tame it
• 11. December / Winners Change and Grow, Staying the Same is for the Others
• 10. December / BIRTHDAY MIRACLES
• 04. December / What You Believe In, Becomes Your Reality, Your Life
• 02. December / It’s That Time of Year
• 28. November / Home is Where You Can Afford to Live–Right?
• 25. November / Children Learn What They Live
• 22. November / Count Your Blessings
• 19. November / Paper Plates–The Cheap Kind
• 17. November / Every Chapter Matters
• 10. November / Trojan Horses
• 09. November / So This
• 08. November / Truth to Bullshit
• 05. November / Narcissist Be Like
• 03. November / Kthanksbye
• 01. November / The Loss of an Estranged Parent
• 31. October / Thanksgiving with Family-More Spooky than Halloween–More Tricky than Treaty
• 28. October / The Opposite of Faith
• 27. October / Broken But Not Destroyed
• 26. October / Hug Rapers-Break the Cycle
• 25. October / A Year of Miracles-or Just One Day
• 24. October / Soul (Rapey) Sister
• 23. October / Happy Birthday
• 22. October / We Can Do Hard Things
• 21. October / One Day at A Time
• 18. October / Emotional Honesty and Healing v. Play Acting
• 17. October / Poor Sally Draper
• 16. October / Recovery from Life
• 12. October / A Friend of Bill’s
• 10. October / Life on Life’s Terms
• 09. October / Loving Myself, Unapologetically, and Without Permission
• 03. October / The Shit Before the Shift
• 02. October / We Don’t Have to Feel Starved
• 27. September / Nope…I can’t
• 26. September / You Do Not Have to Stand for the Pledge
• 25. September / Sorry Not Sorry
• 24. September / Braving The Wilderness
• 17. September / You Are Either With Me or You Are Against Me
• 22. August / Death Wishing and Hopelessness
• 16. August / It is NOT NORMAL
• 15. August / Are You Effing Insane?
• 14. August / Stonewalling-How it Works
• 13. August / Relief Is Available–Name It to Tame It
• 08. August / Truth Speaking–Amen
• 06. August / Our Feelings Can Teach Us
• 04. August / Jeff Brown Wisdom on Spiritual and Emotional Healing
• 31. July / Triangulation-How It Works
• 30. July / Then You Win
• 30. July / The Difference Is….
• 28. July / How Upsetting for Children
• 23. July / Children-Make Them Feel Loved
• 16. July / Love is Many Things, BUT Never Deceitful
• 09. July / What Is that smell? Could it be bullshit?
• 06. July / The Fighter
• 04. July / Independence Day 2017- Freedom from ……..
• 30. June / Mindful Parenting
• 27. June / PSA–Match.com Works When You are Honest
• 25. June / Destroying Others is Monstrous Behavior
• 18. June / Fathers Day Feelings
• 15. June / To Thine Own Self Be True
• 15. June / I know what I Bring to the Table
• 06. June / Historical Revisionist–Future Revisionist
• 01. June / The Day You Were Born
• 31. May / No, No Thank you, Unfortunately, That Wont Work
• 29. May / Memorial Day 2017-Dying for Peace
• 23. May / Self Love is the Shit
• 20. May / Stay Close to Anything That Makes You Glad to be Alive
• 19. May / Starved
• 17. May / The Broken Clock
• 16. May / Me Too, Tell Me More
• 13. May / We Who Are Your Closest Friends
• 11. May / I Wish You Well
• 10. May / The Miracles of Recovery
• 08. May / Gratitude Continued
• 06. May / Project Miracle
• 05. May / Just Be Happy-Goddammit
• 02. May / Letting Go of Obsession- One Day At A Time
• 01. May / Shame Shifting
• 30. April / Happy Mother’s Day
• 28. April / Psychological Invalidation Is Abuse
• 27. April / Always a Third Way
• 26. April / Dear Lord………
• 24. April / Welcome to McDonalds
• 22. April / What Would Lena Dunham Do?
• 21. April / What Is Your Problem, Anyway?
• 20. April / I Love Jesus
• 17. April / When Someone Shows You Who They Are
• 15. April / Let’s Roll-Grappling On and Off the Mats
• 14. April / Shaming and Blaming–Not Welcome Here
• 13. April / Kindness Can Not Be Legislated–BUT Unkindness Can
• 13. April / Follow Your Heart- Be True and Honor Yourself
• 11. April / The Matriarchal Family
• 07. April / Hallelujah Anyway–Anne Lamott with Reverend Chip Edens
• 06. April / Heaven Knows……
• 05. April / Pray for a Miracle
• 04. April / Understanding Unforgiveness- Repair or Release?
• 03. April / One Day at a Time, They too Shall Pass
• 02. April / No Solution- No problem
• 31. March / Surrender…. or Try Harder, More, Better
• 30. March / The Imaginary Letter-The One That Never Comes
• 29. March / Greatest Achievement-hahaha
• 29. March / Letter to Mother and Sister
• 28. March / Tools for Life
• 27. March / An Invitation to Heal-Repair or Release
• 24. March / Good Grief
• 23. March / The Menu-Life Choices
• 23. March / You Spot It–You Got It
• 21. March / House of Cards
• 21. March / Fools Rush In
• 15. March / Painful Dynamics- Repair or Release
• 14. March / Submission is for Jiu-Jitsu and Other Stuff
• 13. March / Moving On is Acceptance
• 12. March / Be Relentless: Eliminate the Poison in Your Life
• 11. March / Love is Compromise–Not Submission
• 10. March / Courage and Compassion-but first self esteem!
• 09. March / I Am Your Biggest Fan- I Am Your Mother
• 08. March / Heartfelt Apologies- A Beginning, Not an End to a Conversation
• 07. March / Instead of Focusing on Rejection
• 06. March / I Am Not Just Raising Boys
• 04. March / Eff Socializing and Small Talk-if it is not for you
• 02. March / Take Time for Creativity
• 01. March / I Will Be Changed But Not Reduced
• 28. February / Money-Not the Problem, Not the Solution
• 28. February / Fascinating and Affirming Article on Narcissism and Gas-lighting
• 27. February / Wake The Fuck Up
• 26. February / The Games Continue
• 25. February / Kindness v. Friendliness
• 24. February / Speak Your Heart – Listeners Will Listen
• 23. February / We Are Only As Sick As Our Secrets
• 22. February / Being Heard v. Being Erased
• 20. February / It is not Impossible, but UNpossible
• 18. February / Bless Them, Change Me
• 17. February / Lord of the Flies- Yikes
• 16. February / Valentines Day Perfection- Until….
• 13. February / Paying it Forward
• 12. February / Insanity is…
• 10. February / Feelings are not Facts
• 03. February / Sadness- Part of the Healing Process
• 02. February / Building and Destroying Trust
• 01. February / My Dog and I are Both Canaries
• 31. January / When Your Mother Is Just Not That Into You
• 30. January / GPS Your Heart
• 27. January / Together We Rise–Yes We Do
• 25. January / Knowing and Using Our Power for Good
• 20. January / Why Lie?
• 18. January / Let’s Talk About Sex-Please
• 17. January / True Perfection
• 17. January / Happy People are Kind
• 16. January / On Khloe Kardashian’s Revenge Body
• 12. January / Boundaries are for Badasses
• 12. January / Problem v. Unpleasant Fact
• 10. January / Prayer Works!
• 06. January / When People Show Us Who They Are
• 05. January / Faithful Living in 2017- Day 3
• 02. January / A New Day-New Strengths
• 01. January / 2017 Best Practices for Self-Love

2016 (46)

• 29. December / I Choose to Share, Heal, Expand-I Write the Ending
• 27. December / Letter to Mom
• 26. December / Letter To Self
• 24. December / Saying Ouch
• 23. December / AMEN
• 21. December / BadAss Friends
• 20. December / Most Wonderful Time of the Yeeeeear
• 19. December / Safe Distance is not Non-love
• 18. December / Even The Broken Clock is Right Twice a Day
• 16. December / What We Focus on Grows
• 14. December / No is a complete sentence.
• 11. December / Love is kind-right?
• 10. December / Go Where The Love Is
• 09. December / Inside Jokes and Situational Nicknames
• 08. December / Get Back Up! (again)
• 07. December / Holiday Performances-Broken Enough to Feel, Foolish Enough to Share
• 07. December / Silence- Not Equal to Peace and Grace
• 06. December / Today is Difficult
• 05. December / Love a Promise, Not an Emotion
• 04. December / Fearless Authenticity-I Heart the Dowager
• 03. December / Kindness Comes from the Kind-hearted
• 02. December / Courage and Vulnerability
• 01. December / What Is Love?
• 30. November / Loyalty
• 29. November / Silence
• 29. November / A Narcissist’s Prayer
• 27. November / Golden Memories
• 26. November / The Key
• 25. November / Best Day Ever
• 24. November / Thanksgiving Thoughts for Those Contemplating No Contact
• 22. November / Big Heart–Big Boundaries
• 20. November / Happy? Birthday
• 19. November / Greasy Hair and Furry Legs
• 18. November / Even the Best of Us
• 16. November / What Is Needed…
• 16. November / THERE YOU ARE….BORROWED FROM MOMASTERY-BLOG BY GLENNON DOYLE MELTON
• 14. November / We Write Our Own Endings-Brené Brown
• 13. November / Finding My Voice-and my lil pink axe
• 12. November / Unlearning-One Day at a Time
• 11. November / This Is How–Augusten Burroughs
• 10. November / Emotional Experience, Real, Though Not Universal
• 07. September / Forgiveness
• 21. August / WBA-Terminology
• 15. August / Big Effen Surrender
• 01. June / Fearless Humor–Only a BadAss Would Own this Thinking
• 18. April / Absolute Authenticity Has Its Price

2015 (5)

• 06. August / BadAss Lil Warrior
• 31. May / GOD’s Grace
• 25. May / Love is the Answer
• 20. May / Different Kinds of Love
• 18. April / What We Model for Our Children…