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What We Model for Our Children…

“In the midst of divorce, now, more than ever, my children look to me. They look to me to see how merciful and generous I am in good times. They look to me to see how strong and faithful I am in bad times. They watch, they listen, and they model. Years from now I want my children to remember a childhood lived well, with a mother who was loving, consistent, devoted, funny, disciplined, playful, and totally present and emotionally available. ”

By: Kristin Armstrong: A Work in Progress

Absolute authenticity…Absolute WBA

Addendum 11/17/16-On a rather unfortunate note:  my sister perseveres in her relationship with my ex-husband which has resulted in tension for us as co-parents. This has also divided extended family as she seeks support for her cause.  She is a perfectionist who may be crushed to one day find that she might see from her daughters what she has modeled  for them(unless they know it is bullshit).  Pretty sure this breaks every girl and family code across all cultures.

It is a miracle that I do not tell her about herself.  In doing so I would only compromise myself.  And yet I fantasize daily of telling her.  That would be more assy and unwholesome than I care to be.  Plus, I think she knows.


Much Love,
Magda Gee

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Author: Magda Gee

I am in a program of recovery for those whose lives have been affected by someone else's drinking, drug use, mental illness. I am new to the experiences of faith and hope and courage, qualities absent for me in proximity to my family. No Contact has been the way to keep safe from diminishing words and actions directed at me. I think I have listened for the last time to how I deserve mistreatment. By holding out for something more wholesome and loving, I have been both banished and demanded to return. I prefer serenity to proximity. I will continue with my program and faith in the best possible outcome, so long as I do my part-- to stalk GOD as if my life depends on it.

One Commnet on “What We Model for Our Children…

  1. Since I’m starting at the beginning right here, your first post (the Blogger’s history matters to me) why am I not surprised to read your sister is making it as obvious as possible she lurves the Drama Triangle. Besides, she has Proxy Abuse down to a science and your ex is the perfect Tool for her to ride into Plausible Deniability.

    Today is my Marathon Day at your Blog by an unvarnished, unrepentant just plain old widow broad badass.
    Ain’t Nothin Wholesome About Me ; – )

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