What Is Needed…

screen-shot-2016-12-06-at-8-16-30-pm“People who are hurting don’t need Avoiders, Protectors, or Fixers. What we need are patient, loving witness. People to sit quietly and hold space for us. People to stand in helpful vigil to our pain.”

― Glennon Doyle Melton, Love Warrior: A Memoir

Keeping silent to keep the peace comes at to high a price.  Let us listen to each other.  Listening takes courage, patience, grace, humility.  Listening is for BadAsses.  I hope to become a better listener….and surrender my need too be heard.

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Author: Wholesome BadAss

I am in a program of recovery for those whose lives have been affected by someone else's drinking, drug use, mental illness. I am new to the experiences of faith and hope and courage, qualities absent for me in proximity to my family. No Contact has been the way to keep safe from diminishing words and actions directed at me. I think I have listened for the last time to how I deserve mistreatment. By holding out for something more wholesome and loving, I have been both banished and demanded to return. I prefer serenity to proximity. I will continue with my program and faith in the best possible outcome, so long as I do my part-- to stalk GOD as if my life depends on it.

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Tundra Woman
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In other words, as the late Alice Miller observed long ago in “The Drama of the Gifted Child,” someone who is an Enlightened Witness.
The most difficult human endeavor is to be present for someone else’s pain.
That’s why people don’t just STFU and listen: It hurts the listener too much.

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