Fascinating and Affirming Article on Narcissism and Gas-lighting

The language of this  article feels so intense and psychotic, because this is intense and psychotic…and it is 100% my experience with my sister.  There is no answer or solution other than No Contact.  Sadly my 84 year old mother with cancer is her willing and enabling hostage.  Unless I submit to this, she will not see or speak to me.  I wonder what that is called, besides “your mom doesn’t want you-you got screwed”.Narcissist's Prayer

Click here to read the full article.  I just skimmed and read the 20 bold bulleted behaviors.  Apparently, while this is shocking, it is not uncommon.  Behavior #s 1,2,3,5,9,…Ok, well pretty much all of them are part of our story.

Sensitive ones, BEWARE of these behaviors!  They will make you feel crazy and sad and unworthy.  You are not.  You do not cause or imagine the insanity of this dynamic and you cannot cure it.  No Contact is the only real solution.  And they will fight you on that.  Aligning with my ex is the perfect affirmation of what I have known all along about my sister, who is terrified that as an adult in recovery who knows what only I know of her, that she must do this.  She cannot trust me more than she trusts herself.

I will pray for compassion for her–from a safe distance.  I give thanks for enough recovery and self-love to allow myself to continue healing.  My engagement stops here.  What is most upsetting is the toll on the innocence of my young sons as they are forced to navigate her antics as she circumvents me by foreign unwholesome alliance with my Ex.  She righteously breaks all girl code with this arrangement.

 

Much Love,
Magda Gee

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Author: Magda Gee

I am in a program of recovery for those whose lives have been affected by someone else's drinking, drug use, mental illness. I am new to the experiences of faith and hope and courage, qualities absent for me in proximity to my family. No Contact has been the way to keep safe from diminishing words and actions directed at me. I think I have listened for the last time to how I deserve mistreatment. By holding out for something more wholesome and loving, I have been both banished and demanded to return. I prefer serenity to proximity. I will continue with my program and faith in the best possible outcome, so long as I do my part-- to stalk GOD as if my life depends on it.

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It’s genuinely surprising how many of these behaviors I received from my ex. More surprising the fact that I was aware of some, but tolerated them and enabled them. Only after we separated did I realize I had lost myself. It was during that time when a song I heard resonated so Loudly in my heart I think I lost my way Getting good at starting over Every time that I return Learning to walk again I believe I’ve waited long enough Where do I begin? Learning to talk again Can’t you see I’ve waited long enough? Where do I… Read more »
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