Month: October 2017

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, Mindful Parenting, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

Thanksgiving with Family-More Spooky than Halloween–More Tricky than Treaty

I realize it is only halloween and I am already thinking Thanksgiving thoughts.  Getting out into the future consistently brings me down.  And, off I go.  My boys are enjoying plans with good wholesome family friends tonight and for that I am over the moon.  For me Thanksgiving will happen in the home of my …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, Mindful Parenting, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

The Opposite of Faith

There is much change in my life as I transition homes and career AND try to accept the finality of my family of origin’s committed alignment with my ex husband, which for many reasons is harmful.  They do this to circumvent  the depth of work toward resolution or even genuine peace between US, without forfeiting …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, Mindful Parenting, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

Broken But Not Destroyed

Day 5 of my Year of Miracles with Marianne Williamson- I have given excessive thought to things like blame, shame, unworthiness, faith, courage, and serenity. The last three are developments from doing the work of recovery. Previously I relied exclusively on blame, shame, unworthiness to guide me—OH, and decades of resentment for being saddled with …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, Mindful Parenting, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

Hug Rapers-Break the Cycle

I have just realized that the same people who demand and extract hugs and demonstrations of physical intimacy of any sort (particularly from children), which are not mutually comfortable or desired—They are the exact same ONES who will cast you out for non compliance. Sick ass conditional love, fraud ! They wish to be in …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, Self-Love, Trauma

A Year of Miracles-or Just One Day

Holy smokes! I just listened to Day 2 of Marianne Williamson (47 times,of course) A Year of Miracles: how miracles happen when we choose expressions of love without the distractions of fear, anxiety, shame, guilt, resentment—and all things not built on love. What the what?  I know it is a little woo woo, but today, …

Intimacy, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, Mindful Parenting, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

Soul (Rapey) Sister

After lunch, this weekend, at my sister’s home where she fawned over my ex in ways that made even him feel awkward, my boys have reported the continued demands for touches and hugs.  I cannot express clearly enough to my sons that they never have to touch or be touched in ways that feel icky, in …