Forgiving those who knowingly continue to diminish the sanctity of my family can sometimes feel impossible. Reading and listening to every writer, healer, spiritual guide–seeking the help I need to stay inside my truth, inside myself-rather than becoming an unwholesome reaction. I am soothed by sage words of Desmond Tutu and his daughter Mpho Tutu as they delve deeply into compassion, humility, healing, forgiveness, love, and faith. Over and over they share what it looks like to Repair or Release relations that are broken.
I cannot read this passage enough times, the relief and comfort of these words defies my articulation. This passage feels supportive of healing, specifically for those of us negotiating life with untreated mental illness and addiction—those who will or cannot consider doing the work of healthy repairs to damaged relations.
I will pray for the wisdom and courage to know when and then to do the work of Repairing(which requires mutual investment) and Releasing(also mutual investment, though perhaps not mutually preferred).
If you have suggestions for books or resources, which have been helpful in this way to you, I hope you will share.
