You Spot It–You Got It
You spot it, you got it.... I was thinking of how I am most irritated by subtle little behaviors in which I assume to know the motivation…so arrogant. And the…
House of Cards
My friend, my hero, my badass partner in recovery has shared how her sister was collectively, not only abused, but also blamed for bringing it on herself by being so difficult—by being who…
Fools Rush In
Because my mother is physically and mentally unwell, 84, and in the hospital, I am feeling twisted up inside, as if I should DO something. There is nothing for me to do at this time. My efforts to heal and build trust or connection are either swatted away like a pesky gnat or they go unacknowledged. I guess swats and dismissals are an improvement from being blasted with heavy artillery of character assasination and accusations of how I deserve abuse or am unworthy of kindness. This is progress. (more…)
Painful Dynamics- Repair or Release
My mother is in the hospital today having cancerous masses removed. My sister whom I have not spoken to since May emailed the information to me. I responded with a…
Submission is for Jiu-Jitsu and Other Stuff
Recovery has taught me that I must be flexible with my approach or method but not with my needs and principles(which are static-not dynamic). When I flex on my principles…
Moving On is Acceptance
Without spiritual recovery, I would still be trying to MAKE people, places and things be different from how they are. Irresponsible, childish, and damaging; attempting to be a God of sorts-very unwholesome,…
Be Relentless: Eliminate the Poison in Your Life
We are not at fault, crazy, or wrong. We have a right to set boundaries and to insist on appropriate treatment. We can separate another’s issues from our issues, and…
Love is Compromise–Not Submission
In our family, we have each been struggling with near constant unmet needs, and so we gathered around our lil table and are in agreement; we must work together- rather than begging,…
Courage and Compassion-but first self esteem!
Just before relocating to this coast, I was graced with one uniquely precious relationship which offered my rebirth into MY world. This man, whom we shall call Pete, was the first person,ever, in my life to authentically invite and encourage my full expansion and to embrace the things that make me, me. Encouraging me-to ask for what I like and say no to what I don’t: food, touching, topics, outings, whatever. (more…)
I Am Your Biggest Fan- I Am Your Mother
Me to S1, who is losing his shit over irritating behavior of S2: S1, Is it possible you are over re-acting? S2 is being insensitive, AND maybe your reaction could be…
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