Problem or Unpleasant Fact–How to Know
Because we have recovery in our home, we get to practice clarifying, for ourselves and each other, the difference between unpleasant facts and problems. Before recovery, I believed if something…
Right, Wrong, or Just Human
It is horrifying to look back over my life and to reflect on the countless times in which I felt either so indisputably right OR so completely wrong,bad,worthless; like--there was…
We Belong to Each Other
Why is the requirement to behave with loyalty towards his brother deeply offensive to my younger son? He enjoys his firm command over an arsenal of typically subtle tactics, to make…
But Why Though
6:45 a.m.- It doesn't even mater why... I woke to crushing anxiety this morning, as I do most, overwhelming, free-floating anxiety tied to nothing in particular and everything all at…
You Do Not Have to Agree with Me to Love Me
I am feeling especially aware and grateful for my own acceptance of my deep core truth that I often need to do nothing, absolutely nothing. Not listening, talking, momming, cleaning, working…
Ambition or Denial
I have never, not ever, properly disposed of old batteries, yet I collect them and store them as if I might. I do not want them in landfills destroying our…
You Got What You Deserved
I heard it expressed frequently by my family of origin-- which led to my own false belief that we may each enforce our truths and wills on those who disturb…
Six Things
Frankly, little mattered to me before motherhood. Life has has never, NOT felt incredibly difficult and unnatural for me. Having sensory issues is difficult. Even the smell and feel of…
When Bad Things Happen to Good People
I have been finding healing and comfort in re-reading and listening to When Bad Things Happen to Good People( a book I first borrowed from my mother, after my father's…
Check Your Self- Sometimes You Are the Toxic Person
I love knowing that if I am willing to see where I have failed, hurt, or harmed, I get to learn from and transcend that. I knew I had to…