Are You an Empath?
Empath Self Assessment by Judith Orloff 1. Have I’ve been labeled as “overly sensitive,” shy, or introverted?2. Do I frequently get overwhelmed or anxious?3. Do arguments or yelling make me…
Bye Mom
A little more than a month has passed and I have not cried for the absence of my mother. When she was alive, because of the fracture which seemed permanent,…
A Litany for Survival
A Litany for Survival BY AUDRE LORDE (...) For those of uswho were imprinted with fearlike a faint line in the center of our foreheadslearning to be afraid with our mother’s…
The Classic Fauxpology-CAUTION RED FLAG--Turn and walk away.
Making Amends
Step 8: Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.Step 9: Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to…
Things Which Once Caused Me Shame
Buh-Bye Toxic Shame! Recovery for me has included unburdening of generations of the toxic shame imposed on me. I now have the tools to identify what is mine to amend…
Goddammit Magda
Friday after school, we had an unusually peaceful few hours before going to pick up dinner from our favorite BBQ place. Often, the time between after school and dinner can…
Together, We Belong
My boys are still young enough that they are more interested in what feels good and right than what hurts and upsets. I love that they are always asking about…
The Exact Right Words
When you are raised having your words and feelings ignored, dismissed, challenged and twisted to be used against you, you may, as I did, dedicate much time to seeking the…
On Being Psycho
Happy Valentines Day, y’all ♥️ My favorite part of my relationships is the laughing endlessly, together, over exactly how unreasonable we can be, at times, complete lunatics, incapable of acting…
The Things We are Learning
"My family upbringing lacked courtesy, respect, calm responses, and forgiveness. It has taken me years to learn how to pause, reflect and choose a more loving response. For years I…