Gossip Culture
Whoever gossips to you, will gossip about you. Gossip is saying behind their back what you would not say to their face. Flattery is saying to their face what you would…
If it hurts me, it is bad for me
Have you known a person who can not see or admit when they have done harm by their words, choices, or actions? They tend to apologize profusely for circumstantial things…
Incongruous Behaviors
When possible, I now know to abstain from people whose words, actions, and proclaimed values are not aligned, those folks are not for me, even if we are married, have…
Is it working??
The Five Rules
Reposting Tom Weston’s Five Rules of Being a Grown Up (steps to maintaining the status quo/rape culture/being pushed out to the margins) The Five Rules of Being A Grown UpBy…
Self Doubt v. Purpose & Belonging
So interesting, I enjoyed a wonderful day off work all to myself and then, while relaxing with an audio book, I was reminded of the crippling self doubt on which…
Look For The Helpers
Who do you crave when you are in pain? Who unfailingly welcomes and solicits your unedited truth? Is it the perpetually smiling person dedicated to the optic and insisting that nothing…
Not So Classy
I felt thrilled and a little proud-ish to have enrolled in a class at the local university. I was satisfied by my initiative, planning, execution, arranging time off work, applying for…
What is Wrong?
Deny, defend, deflect, dilute. I think it is natural to do these things when we are young and full of not knowing how to act right, particularly when we are…
I Choose Corona Virus Over…
Last week, when we were notified of Ecoli in our water, our local schools and restaurants closed for 2 days and residents were under a boil advisory. I was not afraid. On…
I Can Only Imagine
If the opportunity to exchange goodbyes with my mother had been possible... I would have wept, thanked, apologized, forgiven--even if she remained silent and unreceptive. It could have been beautiful.…