Held and Free
"A whole family is one in which each member can bring her full self to the table knowing that she will always be both held and free." by Glennon Doyle Having…
Scapegoating- How it begins
"Any time a small child gets labeled and referred to by a parent as too much or bad, that child/baby is actually being handed the job of covering for a…
AMEN(ds)
While there is no right way to do a wrong thing, there are countless wrong ways to do a right thing. Today, I am keenly aware of the value of…
Cycles of Healing
I would not have chosen the things which have harmed me but am grateful and proud of how I am allowing myself to be shaped by them. Recovery continues to…
Dog Whistling
So one of my sons has some serious skills when it comes to dog whistling and gaslighting and boy am I grateful I get to be a different sort of…
My First Bullies
Who in your life held you in unconditional high regard and rooted for you, ride or die 24-7-365? Who in your life consistently instilled messages of doubt, fear, shame, guilt,…
Are you seriously still talking about it?
I came to view punishment and shame as logical/natural consequences to being different displeasing. Great and collective effort was dedicated to reducing me to a more manageable situation. It is…
Out Of My Control- In My Control
CPTSD often occurs as a result of being made to feel unsafe because of your identity. Feeling powerless to change who and how I was, made me fearful, anxious, aggressive,…
dis-GRACEd
Ruminating (ok, obsessing) on the concept of grace and how I feel nearly frantic (obvi) that my boys may not learn to value grace, as a way of being. Intentionally…
Amazing Grace
I created this blog to discover(through reflection an sharing) and reclaim all of parts of myself which had been erased-- or failed to develop as a result of learned distorted…