Perspectives
Schema, perspective, experience, understanding...shit. WOW. My younger son and I differ in so many beautiful ways, and also some difficult ones. Either way, he is a great teacher and reminder…
Roles and Scripts
I am realizing why roles and scripts are of increasing interest to me, as I learn to wean myself from a recurring dynamic. I can now identify powerful, lifeshaping roles…
New Dynamics
Exploring dating/intimacy/relationships has been instrumental for me learning to know and understand myself. I am currently in "negotiations" for a power differential (the dynamic has a name, well defined rules,…
Like a Moth to a Flame
Ok, so from the very beginning with Stu, the widow, I was enamored by his ability to say what I needed to hear in the language I crave. He exercised…
Big Triggers
Ok, I have resumed journalling, rigorously, of course, because I either do things with rigor or not at all. sooo—With this man, who is widowed, from the love of his…
Trolling for Love on Match.com
So, here I am “dating” again.... And I feel as if it’s almost something to be admitted only in a whisper, to close friends, and with an apology. For the…
Good, better, and not enough
Last week, Ed, my friend from the mountains, visited for our week together and we had such a nice time doing the most basic shit. Yardwork, making food, checking out…
Relax- Calm Down
After my friend in the mountains directed me, in a moment of distress, to "relax", I was able to calmly request the following without any blowback or negative consequences: "Hey,…
My Friend in the Mountains
Visits with my friend in the mountains continue for 5 days at a time every other week which works well for us. He and I each unapologetically require stretches of…
New Love- Old Wounds
Still enjoying the magic of every other week in the mountains with my new friend, and as we become more familiar and relaxed with each other, we are being slowly…