What Is Needed…
“People who are hurting don't need Avoiders, Protectors, or Fixers. What we need are patient, loving witness. People to sit quietly and hold space for us. People to stand in…
THERE YOU ARE….BORROWED FROM MOMASTERY-BLOG BY GLENNON DOYLE MELTON
“There are two types of people – those who walk into a room and say: ‘Here I am!’ and those who walk into a room and say: ‘There you are.’”…
We Write Our Own Endings-Brené Brown
MANIFESTO OF THE BRAVE AND BROKENHEARTED There is no greater threat to the critics and cynics and fearmongers Than those of us who are willing to fall Because we have…
Finding My Voice-and my lil pink axe
While striving to honor the authentic voice of who I am, I have realized a profound lack of vision for my life…no goals, other than to just hurt less…to feel and cause less pain. In my family of origin and marriage, my pain was categorized for me in one of three ways:
- pain I caused
- pain I deserved
- pain I imagined
For each of which, comfort was unavailable. (more…)
Unlearning-One Day at a Time
In my life I can’t help but marvel at the grim, if not blind determination to force people places and things to BE different from how 
they are. This behavior is typically paired with barely contained rage or smugness, dependent on the outcome.
This influence did not springboard me into a state of wholesome badassery, Overly receptive to sensory stimulus and the emotional energy of others, highly strung, I have been mostly scared shitless and very reactive.
WBA is my journal of expansion beyond what I have “known”, now living intentionally with NEW, kinder, gentler ways of being in the world. With the close and constant proximity to Trusted Others I am re-parenting myself, growing into a spiritually mature woman. (more…)
This Is How–Augusten Burroughs
“If you have one parent who loves you, even if they can't buy you clothes, they're so poor and they make all kinds of mistakes and maybe sometimes they even…
Forgiveness
I have heard it said that "Forgiveness requires more than the intellectual commitment to do so." Years of seeking a definition that I can work with, I think I this is…
WBA-Terminology
What these words mean to me:
Wholesome-spiritually /principle driven. (In my life, my principles are static-unchanged by my mood or reaction. Mine are those of a 12 Step Fellowship.) When I am in alignment with my program principles, I am wholesome.
BadAss– Grit, courage and resolve. Strength of character. When I walk head on, through what I think I cannot manage– with only my courage and faith, I feel BadAss. When I resist the invitation to jump into the ring, I am a BadAss. When I say, Sorry that won’t work out, without defense, I am BadAss. When I revere my Good Orderly Direction more than my concern with another persons’s reaction, I AM A BADASS.
Accepting an uncomfortable truth, an unpleasant fact. Accepting that there is nothing to be done about it and Just doing the next right thing. Courage and Faith are the only reasons I have not reacted more to the behaviors and words of my family.
Courage– Facing pain and fear with faith in Good Orderly Direction. (more…)
Big Effen Surrender
Today, I did something different. When I wanted to react, when I wanted to retaliate, to enlighten, I did nothing. I let it be. I cried. I shared with…