I Am Free
It was communicated collectively and consistently to me, that who I was (am) is THE problem. In my 40s, I found a program of recovery to help me begin to heal…
Who I Am
Having believed that “I. Am. THE. Problem”-- the designated cause for other people's shame, pain, hostile silence, cruel words, and overall mental health could only be relieved through recovery and repair.…
Hickeys and Large Pores
So, an Instagram Ad for a pore vacuum appeared in my feed...eeew gross, right?--What kind of dirty loser needs to vacuum their pores...only the most unfortunate individual, obvi. IG algorithm…
Yeh- No
One of the most amazing aspects of life with Sweet Greg is our partnership as equals, our collaboration, working as a team, though often I attempt to be his boss,…
How I Used To Be
For much of my life I treasured, even sought, the opportunity to align with one person (squee –closeness, right?) against another for any reason at all-- instant, cheap, and easy bond. I…
You’ve Got to Be Carefully Taught
You've got to be taught, to hate and fearYou've got to be taught from year to yearIt's got to be drummed in your dear little earYou've got to be carefully…
Serves You Right
In my family of origin, people seemed to get ranked by intellect and like mindedness (or different mindedness). There were decent people(worthy of kindness and respect) -- highly credentialed and like minded.…
Under The Influence
Most of us (if only a little) are impressed by fine clothes, cars, homes, overall attractiveness, and status. -Totally normal to unconsciously attach meaning to what we see and to feel…
To Repair or Repaint
My life is filled with terrible choices, ugly truths, and failed relationships. Those things do not define me and cannot be used to shame or diminish me. Only through my courage to…