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Valentine’s Day: A Strange Surprise

I didn’t expect to hear from my ex-husband on Valentine’s Day, especially after years of no contact. When his call came through, I assumed it was urgent—something about our sons. Given our history, I expected it to be disturbing, so I let him know I was on my way into a medical procedure and wouldn’t be able to talk until after the weekend.

When Monday came around, I texted, explaining I was managing chronic pain and that it would be easier to communicate by email or text. Imagine my surprise when he just wanted to tell me he was getting married.

I’m confused. Why tell me by phone, more than a month after getting engaged? Why Valentine’s Day? It is an odd choice, and not a coincidence, for someone who’s pretty calculating. I can’t know the reason behind his timing. Sometimes, people’s actions leave you questioning intent. I guess it falls right in line with his fiance’s need to message me in Pinterest for reasons I also could not make sense of. Sheesh. Why you so obseesed with me? lol

Magda Gee

I am in a program of recovery for those whose lives have been affected by someone else's drinking, drug use, mental illness. I am newly learning faith, hope, and courage, practices not witnessed by me, in my childhood, with my family. Sadly, No Contact, as a last resort, is how I keep safe from diminishing words and actions directed at me. I think I have listened for the last time to how I deserve mistreatment. By holding out for something more wholesome and loving, I have been both banished and demanded to return. I prefer serenity to proximity. I will continue with my program and faith in the best possible outcome, so long as I do my part-- to stalk GOD as if my life depends on it.