Forgiveness
I have heard it said that “Forgiveness requires more than the intellectual commitment to do so.”
Years of seeking a definition that I can work with, I think I this is IT.
“Forgiveness means it finally becomes unimportant that you hit back. You’re done. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you want to have lunch with the person. If you keep hitting back, you stay trapped in the nightmare…”
― Anne Lamott, Plan B: Further Thoughts on Faith
WBA-Terminology
What these words mean to me:
Wholesome-spiritually /principle driven. (In my life, my principles are static-unchanged by my mood or reaction. Mine are those of a 12 Step Fellowship.) When I am in alignment with my program principles, I am wholesome.
BadAss– Grit, courage and resolve. Strength of character. When I walk head on, through what I think I cannot manage– with only my courage and faith, I feel BadAss. When I resist the invitation to jump into the ring, I am a BadAss. When I say, Sorry that won’t work out, without defense, I am BadAss. When I revere my Good Orderly Direction more than my concern with another persons’s reaction, I AM A BADASS.
Accepting an uncomfortable truth, an unpleasant fact. Accepting that there is nothing to be done about it and Just doing the next right thing. Courage and Faith are the only reasons I have not reacted more to the behaviors and words of my family.
Courage– Facing pain and fear with faith in Good Orderly Direction. (more…)
Big Effen Surrender
Today, I did something different. When I wanted to react, when I wanted to retaliate, to enlighten, I did nothing. I let it be. I cried. I shared with trusted others. I cried. And I let it be. That is a miracle. The situation is very non-miracle. My response to it-100% miracle. Willingness to do things differently to not do and say as I feel called to do by habit, will, or ego. 100%!
“the gift of an unexpressed thought“– Big Surrender
Fearless Humor–Only a BadAss Would Own this Thinking
We Who Are Your Closest Friends
by Phillip Lopate
we who are
your closest friends
feel the time
has come to tell you
that every Thursday
we have been meeting
as a group
to devise ways
to keep you
in perpetual uncertainty
frustration
discontent and
torture
by neither loving you
as much as you want
nor cutting you adrift
your analyst is
in on it
plus your boyfriend
and your ex-husband
and we have pledged
to disappoint you
as long as you need us
in announcing our
association
we realize we have
placed in your hands
a possible antidote
against uncertainty
indeed against ourselves
but since our Thursday nights
have brought us
to a community of purpose
rare in itself
with you as
the natural center
we feel hopeful you
will continue to make
unreasonable
demands for affection
if not as a consequence
of your
disastrous personality
then for the good of the collective.
Absolute Authenticity Has Its Price
My commitment to living, loving, serving, and feeling with my whole heart is separating me from historical relations which require that I stay on script and come on cue. It feels as though it I am consistently admonished: “Fuck you for going off script! Who do you think you are?” Those words not spoken, but the message is clear.
I may not fully yet know who I am. But I do know—that I am worthy of love and kindness, which prevents me from staying on the script. #Sorrynotsorry.
I will take my cues from and keep close to the courageous, humble, and vulnerable. For only theirs are opinions to be considered. Owning without apology, all of who they are, holding an expectation that I do the same. This is not for everyone….but definitely the badAsses. Wholesome BadAsses-thriving together in expansion; mine, yours–contraction will. not. do.
BadAss Lil Warrior
My mother after her 6th chemo treatment. I think she looks like a beautiful courageous warrior. When I see women in scarves or head covers. I want to bow to them. Total badasses. Not pretending or hiding or flaunting. Just living and fighting the good fight.
Will you look at her!!!! amazing. I love love love this pic. The vulnerability and courage are breathtaking. I told her I loved her skull. That it was so perfectly formed and that mine would look like a softening and over ripened peach… I don’t love the cancer or that she has to be bald. But I do love her skull and her spirit and this picture, this moment where she let me try different head covers on her and even smiled for her picture. My mother now thinks I am more peculiar than ever for loving her skull and saying so without apology. I wanted to smooch it…badly– and pet it. I am her baby bunny and she will always be my mama squirrel.
Each, perfect and lovely. Both rock…just not usually together. For too long I accepted my role as broken squirrel when I was not condemning her as evil bunny.
I love you, Mom.
Addendum 11.17.16 Only, I will no longer abandon my well being to prove it.
GOD’s Grace
In 2010, my now ex-husband left our home per court direction. But, only after intentionally draining us/me financially. Today, five years into my spiritual recovery, the two of us are collaborating to relocate our family cross-country, together (into separate homes, of course). We still differ fundamentally — at cellular levels…. And i now see this, not as a problem, but a fact.
Spiritual direction allows me the choice to respond maturely, at times with grace, to differences & disturbances. With the good orderly direction of my program, i choose more wholesome behavior for myself, allowing me to transcend the pain of my old ways. Before, my reactions (and initiatives) were more bad and more assy, than wholesome or badass. (more…)
Love is the Answer
I need not worry about what to say or do.
I just need to love.
Love (the verb) is the answer. Always.
Love does not require abandoning my truth.
This does not mean all will be pleased. And another’s displeasure is not proof of harm.
Different Kinds of Love
Two of my post divorce relationship exes are currently on my radar. I cared deeply for each of these men. Both relationships unfolded in similar ways.
It has been the story of my life to tether myself to people who simultaneously with one hand motion me to come closer and with the other, motion for me to stop or back up.
Today, an inbound stream of sweet texts tempted me to engage. I resisted. Until….he said
“i miss you like crazy”.
I paused….and with total love in my heart was able to respond:
“I miss you too, but I do not miss confusion”.
What a miracle. It felt clean, wholesome, loving, & honest….even a little badass….so much better than telling him about himself. I am surrendering my job as giver of enlightenment.
We all just get to be who we are. And be honest about what works. Right?
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- 15. September / Just Be Positive
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- 02. September / Blessings and Privilege
- 02. September / A New Low
- 01. September / Several Things
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- 05. November / Holding On– But also letting go
- 14. October / Goals, Ambition, Mental Health
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- 26. September / Trojan Horse(repost from 2017)
- 24. August / The Pain We Do Not Heal(re-post from 2018)
- 22. August / If you can’t convince them, confuse them(re-post)
- 22. August / A Different Kind Of Sex(re-post)
- 01. August / Public Service Announcement
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- 29. July / Perspectives
- 26. July / Roles and Scripts
- 11. July / New Dynamics
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- 17. June / Big Triggers
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- 13. May / Good, better, and not enough
- 09. April / Relax- Calm Down
- 08. April / My Friend in the Mountains
- 12. March / New Love- Old Wounds
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- 31. December / Held and Free
- 24. December / Scapegoating- How it begins
- 17. December / AMEN(ds)
- 11. November / Cycles of Healing
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- 17. July / dis-GRACEd
- 14. July / Amazing Grace
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- 11. July / In healthy, healing, loving family systems…
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- 05. July / Dear Maggie
- 04. July / July 4
- 12. June / YOU ARE THE ONLY PROBLEM!!!
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- 29. May / Blind Spots- We All Have Them
- 27. May / Circling The Drain
- 16. May / Just Another List
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- 08. May / Goals
- 23. April / Why I Did IT
- 12. April / The Non-Redeemable
- 31. March / Get Well Soon—PLEASE
- 19. March / 60 Year Old Bearded Alcoholic Girlfriend
- 15. March / Maybe I Am
- 13. March / Perfection v. Self Reflection
- 11. March / The House Rules
- 12. February / Fuuuuuuuuuck
- 05. February / Narcissistic Bullying
- 01. February / Pathological Shaming
- 22. January / Want Sum?
- 20. January / Love Does & Does Not
- 18. January / Clean MRI
- 17. January / So Then
- 14. January / Wednesday Morning Text
2021 (45)
- 31. December / There are Some Good Things
- 28. December / WIATF?
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- 21. December / On Fidelity
- 16. December / Good Input
- 07. December / Connection & Purpose
- 27. November / Mercy
- 26. November / JOYful Thanksgiving
- 25. November / Another Thanksgiving
- 17. November / Random Thoughts on Love, Parenting, & Truths
- 11. November / Fight Starters 100% Guaranteed
- 01. November / Doing The Lord’s Work
- 31. October / Not A Great Fit
- 27. October / Daily Reminders
- 26. October / 2021 Happy Birthday
- 22. October / Choosing
- 08. October / The Commandments
- 03. October / Mental Health Awareness
- 26. September / Narcissists Seek Validation -Not Help
- 19. September / My Trauma is My Gift
- 18. September / Step ZERO
- 09. September / 9.11
- 05. September / Covid and the Narcissist
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- 07. August / Thoughtful Cruelty
- 17. July / Artificial Indifference
- 28. June / Today v. Yesterday
- 28. June / Fuck yoooooooooooooooo
- 03. June / Clearly
- 29. May / PTSD and Insanity
- 29. May / Me Tooooo
- 22. May / Risk Taking Mistake Making
- 18. May / Wrong Beliefs- A Mother’s Day Post
- 04. May / Depression and Sex
- 18. April / Alien
- 17. April / Trying
- 23. March / Anne Lamott – Recovery Badass
- 14. February / Mistakes Were Made But Not By Me
- 08. February / Big Shot
- 07. February / Night-Time
- 27. January / Smile GDI!
- 14. January / On Loyalty and Abuse
- 04. January / Happy New Year
2020 (66)
- 21. December / The Art of Plausible Deniability
- 15. December / Wish You Were Here
- 12. December / Tell the Truth
- 02. December / No Deal!
- 30. November / My JOB
- 19. November / Let Go or Be Dragged
- 04. November / Week Five
- 29. September / A Different Kind of Life
- 27. September / We Love Jilan
- 24. September / Cover Up!
- 22. September / What Shame Does
- 14. September / ACA Daily Reading January 12- Fear
- 13. September / ACA Daily Reading January 11- False Self
- 12. September / I Don’t Get It
- 09. September / Before Recovery
- 07. September / September 7
- 03. September / Introverting
- 26. August / uniformity v. solidarity
- 14. August / Pain
- 02. August / What is Schadenfreude?
- 26. July / Affiliations and Attachments
- 23. July / Kindness Is Not Conditional
- 13. July / Or Else — Bring it
- 01. July / Be The Reason
- 23. June / Mama
- 17. June / What We Choose
- 09. June / Torture
- 08. June / MY White Privilege
- 12. May / Things I struggle with
- 11. May / Twenty-five Things
- 05. May / I AM
- 02. May / Wrong But Not Bad
- 24. April / I Am Free
- 23. April / Who I Am
- 21. April / Hickeys and Large Pores
- 20. April / Yeh- No
- 13. April / How I Used To Be
- 10. April / You’ve Got to Be Carefully Taught
- 09. April / Serves You Right
- 08. April / Under The Influence
- 07. April / To Repair or Repaint
- 30. March / Gossip Culture
- 27. March / If it hurts me, it is bad for me
- 26. March / Incongruous Behaviors
- 25. March / The Five Rules
- 25. March / Self Doubt v. Purpose & Belonging
- 21. March / Look For The Helpers
- 20. March / Not So Classy
- 19. March / What is Wrong?
- 17. March / I Choose Corona Virus Over…
- 11. March / I Can Only Imagine
- 08. March / An Altruistic Donor
- 07. March / Liver Anyone?
- 29. February / Just Because
- 26. February / Emotionally Barbaric
- 24. February / Healing is Excruciating
- 18. February / To Struggle Is Human
- 03. February / Either Or
- 01. February / The Bare Minimum
- 28. January / I Will Change The Things I Can
- 15. January / Who Even Does That?
- 14. January / Bold and Sensitive
- 13. January / First Class
- 07. January / Raising a Modern-Day Knight
- 06. January / Learning to Say No to Yourself
- 03. January / What Sort of Person Behaves Like That?
2019 (58)
- 31. December / Bye Bye 2019
- 30. December / Recovering From The Family Disease
- 27. December / Back to Step One
- 26. December / No More
- 20. December / A Book Club Must Read
- 14. December / Boundaries Are Hard
- 11. December / Listen, Learn, Serve
- 09. December / Obedience to the Unenforceable
- 30. November / Eggshells are Easily Broken
- 27. November / Claiming Responsibility
- 18. November / Thank You for Letting Me Go
- 12. November / Freedom from THE Shame
- 08. November / Cycle Breaking–and the Fall Out
- 06. November / Better Living
- 24. October / Sweet Mercy
- 29. September / My Saddest Day
- 26. September / The Anatomy of Trust
- 21. September / Because I was Terrified
- 07. September / Fuck Shame
- 12. August / Love Does
- 28. July / Deselection
- 04. July / Repair or Repeat
- 04. July / Feeling Empowered
- 21. June / You Deserve Better
- 18. May / Sometimes The Solution Sucks
- 12. May / On Mother’s Day
- 21. April / “Happy” Easter
- 13. April / I Feel You—literally
- 18. March / An Inconvenient Child
- 04. March / Life and Love are Messy by Rachael Alaia
- 02. March / Are You an Empath?
- 02. March / Bye Mom
- 28. February / A Litany for Survival
- 19. February / Making Amends
- 18. February / Things Which Once Caused Me Shame
- 18. February / Goddammit Magda
- 17. February / Together, We Belong
- 15. February / The Exact Right Words
- 14. February / On Being Psycho
- 12. February / The Things We are Learning
- 11. February / Say Yikes and Move On!
- 07. February / Educated by Tara Westover
- 05. February / Unity v. Division
- 30. January / Learning to Belong
- 29. January / The Quality of My Thoughts
- 26. January / Formatting Errors v. Compatibility Issues
- 25. January / No Means No
- 24. January / Never say Never
- 20. January / You Can’t Make Me and Neither Can I
- 19. January / Trust in Kindness
- 14. January / Day 15 I Can Not Be Counted On
- 13. January / Day 14 Character Analysis
- 12. January / Day 13 Second-Handers
- 07. January / Day 8 Reflection
- 05. January / Atypical Day 6
- 03. January / Day 4 Schitt’s Creek
- 02. January / Day 3 The Fountainhead
- 01. January / 2019 Day 1
2018 (86)
- 31. December / No, But This Time I Mean It
- 21. December / Clear Boundaries are not Grudges
- 20. December / Are You My Mother?
- 17. December / Our Mother Who Art in Heaven
- 17. December / Social Media for Abuse Awareness
- 16. December / Pills That are Hard to Swallow
- 04. December / BUT WHY THO—Dear Mom
- 03. December / Rest In Peace
- 02. December / Fake Peace
- 25. November / This Is Not My Kingdom
- 24. November / Walls or Bridges
- 22. November / Gentle Thanksgiving
- 19. November / Being Human Means Making Mistakes
- 09. November / Boundaries and Being Non-Dead
- 06. November / How I Tricked Him Into Loving Me
- 02. November / Healing After and During Betrayal
- 29. October / Communicating Truth
- 26. October / Aha!
- 25. October / Happy Birthday ?
- 14. October / Why Lie
- 11. October / Some Letters
- 06. October / The Part Where You Fucked Up
- 02. October / The Smiling Poop Emoji
- 25. September / Grandma’s Favorite—awww so sweet, y’all
- 24. September / Thank Good Gods
- 23. September / Undeserving
- 10. September / Supporting Gay Tweens- Even when they are not “yours”
- 26. August / It is Not that I Don’t Care..
- 17. August / For the Love
- 14. August / Because Obviously
- 10. August / On Forgiving
- 03. August / Like-hearted
- 28. July / Are We Good?
- 26. July / Stand Your Ground
- 25. July / It Might Just Suck
- 23. July / On Bullying
- 22. July / First, Your Spirit
- 19. July / On Gossip
- 16. July / The Tightrope
- 12. July / Get Well Soon
- 09. July / Emergencies and Celebrations
- 09. July / The Opposite of Love
- 08. July / A Letter for Children
- 06. July / Life and Death
- 05. July / Independence Day
- 04. July / No Laughing Matter
- 03. July / We Learn What We Live
- 02. July / Low Blood Sugar and Anxiety
- 02. July / Be the Nice Kid
- 01. July / Indirect Communication
- 29. June / Problem or Unpleasant Fact–How to Know
- 28. June / Right, Wrong, or Just Human
- 26. June / We Belong to Each Other
- 25. June / But Why Though
- 24. June / You Do Not Have to Agree with Me to Love Me
- 23. June / Ambition or Denial
- 22. June / You Got What You Deserved
- 22. June / Six Things
- 17. June / When Bad Things Happen to Good People
- 07. June / Mental Health–We all have mental health.
- 04. June / How to Achieve Menschdom by Guy Kawasaki
- 26. May / What is Love?
- 22. May / A Letter to My Sons
- 20. May / Abuse is Abuse
- 15. May / A Letter From My Sons
- 13. May / Courage to Change
- 11. May / happy mothers’ day
- 06. May / The Zero-Sum Game–Everyone Loses
- 03. May / Every Time I Judge
- 02. May / Recovery Celebrations
- 13. April / Best Days of Our Lives
- 05. April / Shame on Who(or whom)?
- 02. April / Get Over It—Umm Okaaay
- 29. March / DGAF–I Totally Give
- 28. March / I am sorry that…
- 12. March / Thank You for Teaching Me
- 21. February / The Legacy of Rage
- 16. February / Serves You Right
- 15. February / Parenting and Power Struggles
- 23. January / Food and Truth-In Abundance
- 19. January / We Can Do Hard Things
- 16. January / One Goal 100% of the Time
- 12. January / Am I an Asshole-I Don’t Think So(anymore)
- 05. January / Breakups
- 02. January / Shannon Thomas- Healing From Hidden Abuse
2017 (160)
- 27. December / They Belong Together
- 26. December / Sweet Surrender
- 19. December / Connection and Protection
- 18. December / It is Not About You
- 12. December / Name it To Tame it
- 11. December / Winners Change and Grow, Staying the Same is for the Others
- 10. December / BIRTHDAY MIRACLES
- 04. December / What You Believe In, Becomes Your Reality, Your Life
- 02. December / It’s That Time of Year
- 28. November / Home is Where You Can Afford to Live–Right?
- 25. November / Children Learn What They Live
- 22. November / Count Your Blessings
- 19. November / Paper Plates–The Cheap Kind
- 17. November / Every Chapter Matters
- 10. November / Trojan Horses
- 09. November / So This
- 08. November / Truth to Bullshit
- 05. November / Narcissist Be Like
- 03. November / Kthanksbye
- 01. November / The Loss of an Estranged Parent
- 28. October / The Opposite of Faith
- 27. October / Broken But Not Destroyed
- 26. October / Hug Rapers-Break the Cycle
- 25. October / A Year of Miracles-or Just One Day
- 24. October / Soul (Rapey) Sister
- 23. October / Happy Birthday
- 22. October / We Can Do Hard Things
- 21. October / One Day at A Time
- 18. October / Emotional Honesty and Healing v. Play Acting
- 17. October / Poor Sally Draper
- 16. October / Recovery from Life
- 12. October / A Friend of Bill’s
- 10. October / Life on Life’s Terms
- 09. October / Loving Myself, Unapologetically, and Without Permission
- 03. October / The Shit Before the Shift
- 02. October / We Don’t Have to Feel Starved
- 27. September / Nope…I can’t
- 26. September / You Do Not Have to Stand for the Pledge
- 25. September / Sorry Not Sorry
- 24. September / Braving The Wilderness
- 17. September / You Are Either With Me or You Are Against Me
- 22. August / Death Wishing and Hopelessness
- 16. August / It is NOT NORMAL
- 15. August / Are You Effing Insane?
- 14. August / Stonewalling-How it Works
- 13. August / Relief Is Available–Name It to Tame It
- 08. August / Truth Speaking–Amen
- 06. August / Our Feelings Can Teach Us
- 04. August / Jeff Brown Wisdom on Spiritual and Emotional Healing
- 31. July / Triangulation-How It Works
- 30. July / Then You Win
- 30. July / The Difference Is….
- 28. July / How Upsetting for Children
- 23. July / Children-Make Them Feel Loved
- 16. July / Love is Many Things, BUT Never Deceitful
- 09. July / What Is that smell? Could it be bullshit?
- 06. July / The Fighter
- 04. July / Independence Day 2017- Freedom from ……..
- 30. June / Mindful Parenting
- 27. June / PSA–Match.com Works When You are Honest
- 25. June / Destroying Others is Monstrous Behavior
- 18. June / Fathers Day Feelings
- 15. June / To Thine Own Self Be True
- 15. June / I know what I Bring to the Table
- 06. June / Historical Revisionist–Future Revisionist
- 01. June / The Day You Were Born
- 29. May / Memorial Day 2017-Dying for Peace
- 23. May / Self Love is the Shit
- 19. May / Starved
- 17. May / The Broken Clock
- 16. May / Me Too, Tell Me More
- 13. May / We Who Are Your Closest Friends
- 11. May / I Wish You Well
- 10. May / The Miracles of Recovery
- 08. May / Gratitude Continued
- 06. May / Project Miracle
- 05. May / Just Be Happy-Goddammit
- 01. May / Shame Shifting
- 30. April / Happy Mother’s Day
- 28. April / Psychological Invalidation Is Abuse
- 27. April / Always a Third Way
- 26. April / Dear Lord………
- 24. April / Welcome to McDonalds
- 22. April / What Would Lena Dunham Do?
- 21. April / What Is Your Problem, Anyway?
- 20. April / I Love Jesus
- 17. April / When Someone Shows You Who They Are
- 15. April / Let’s Roll-Grappling On and Off the Mats
- 14. April / Shaming and Blaming–Not Welcome Here
- 13. April / Follow Your Heart- Be True and Honor Yourself
- 11. April / The Matriarchal Family
- 06. April / Heaven Knows……
- 05. April / Pray for a Miracle
- 04. April / Understanding Unforgiveness- Repair or Release?
- 03. April / One Day at a Time, They too Shall Pass
- 02. April / No Solution- No problem
- 31. March / Surrender…. or Try Harder, More, Better
- 30. March / The Imaginary Letter-The One That Never Comes
- 29. March / Greatest Achievement-hahaha
- 29. March / Letter to Mother and Sister
- 28. March / Tools for Life
- 27. March / An Invitation to Heal-Repair or Release
- 24. March / Good Grief
- 23. March / The Menu-Life Choices
- 23. March / You Spot It–You Got It
- 21. March / House of Cards
- 21. March / Fools Rush In
- 15. March / Painful Dynamics- Repair or Release
- 14. March / Submission is for Jiu-Jitsu and Other Stuff
- 13. March / Moving On is Acceptance
- 12. March / Be Relentless: Eliminate the Poison in Your Life
- 11. March / Love is Compromise–Not Submission
- 10. March / Courage and Compassion-but first self esteem!
- 09. March / I Am Your Biggest Fan- I Am Your Mother
- 07. March / Instead of Focusing on Rejection
- 06. March / I Am Not Just Raising Boys
- 02. March / Take Time for Creativity
- 01. March / I Will Be Changed But Not Reduced
- 28. February / Money-Not the Problem, Not the Solution
- 27. February / Wake The Fuck Up
- 26. February / The Games Continue
- 25. February / Kindness v. Friendliness
- 24. February / Speak Your Heart – Listeners Will Listen
- 23. February / We Are Only As Sick As Our Secrets
- 22. February / Being Heard v. Being Erased
- 20. February / It is not Impossible, but UNpossible
- 18. February / Bless Them, Change Me
- 17. February / Lord of the Flies- Yikes
- 16. February / Valentines Day Perfection- Until….
- 13. February / Paying it Forward
- 12. February / Insanity is…
- 10. February / Feelings are not Facts
- 03. February / Sadness- Part of the Healing Process
- 02. February / Building and Destroying Trust
- 01. February / My Dog and I are Both Canaries
- 31. January / When Your Mother Is Just Not That Into You
- 30. January / GPS Your Heart
- 27. January / Together We Rise–Yes We Do
- 25. January / Knowing and Using Our Power for Good
- 20. January / Why Lie?
- 18. January / Let’s Talk About Sex-Please
- 17. January / True Perfection
- 17. January / Happy People are Kind
- 16. January / On Khloe Kardashian’s Revenge Body
- 12. January / Boundaries are for Badasses
- 12. January / Problem v. Unpleasant Fact
- 10. January / Prayer Works!
- 06. January / When People Show Us Who They Are
- 05. January / Faithful Living in 2017- Day 3
- 02. January / A New Day-New Strengths
- 01. January / 2017 Best Practices for Self-Love
2016 (46)
- 29. December / I Choose to Share, Heal, Expand-I Write the Ending
- 27. December / Letter to Mom
- 26. December / Letter To Self
- 24. December / Saying Ouch
- 23. December / AMEN
- 21. December / BadAss Friends
- 20. December / Most Wonderful Time of the Yeeeeear
- 19. December / Safe Distance is not Non-love
- 18. December / Even The Broken Clock is Right Twice a Day
- 16. December / What We Focus on Grows
- 14. December / No is a complete sentence.
- 11. December / Love is kind-right?
- 10. December / Go Where The Love Is
- 09. December / Inside Jokes and Situational Nicknames
- 08. December / Get Back Up! (again)
- 07. December / Silence- Not Equal to Peace and Grace
- 06. December / Today is Difficult
- 05. December / Love a Promise, Not an Emotion
- 04. December / Fearless Authenticity-I Heart the Dowager
- 03. December / Kindness Comes from the Kind-hearted
- 02. December / Courage and Vulnerability
- 01. December / What Is Love?
- 30. November / Loyalty
- 29. November / Silence
- 29. November / A Narcissist’s Prayer
- 27. November / Golden Memories
- 26. November / The Key
- 25. November / Best Day Ever
- 24. November / Thanksgiving Thoughts for Those Contemplating No Contact
- 22. November / Big Heart–Big Boundaries
- 20. November / Happy? Birthday
- 19. November / Greasy Hair and Furry Legs
- 18. November / Even the Best of Us
- 16. November / What Is Needed…
- 14. November / We Write Our Own Endings-Brené Brown
- 13. November / Finding My Voice-and my lil pink axe
- 12. November / Unlearning-One Day at a Time
- 11. November / This Is How–Augusten Burroughs
- 10. November / Emotional Experience, Real, Though Not Universal
- 07. September / Forgiveness
- 21. August / WBA-Terminology
- 15. August / Big Effen Surrender
- 18. April / Absolute Authenticity Has Its Price
2015 (5)
- 06. August / BadAss Lil Warrior
- 31. May / GOD’s Grace
- 25. May / Love is the Answer
- 20. May / Different Kinds of Love
- 18. April / What We Model for Our Children…
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Words to LIVE By
Who you spend your time with will have a great impact on what kind of life you live. Spend time with the right people.
— Joel Osteen (@JoelOsteen) November 19, 2016