What Shame Does
Nothing good is born out of shame. Ever. And it does not resolve itself over time. If we don't intentionally work to heal it, shame makes us unwell, and also makes those…
ACA Daily Reading January 12- Fear
From Strengthening My Recovery p13- January 12 Trait One "We became isolated and afraid of people and authority figures." Big Red Book p.10 So many of us shut down and…
ACA Daily Reading January 11- False Self
This is my 11th day since receiving my daily reader. Below is the daily reading for January 11, titled False Self: Many of us couldn't be ourselves as children. In order…
I Don’t Get It
I was thinking how little I have in common with my family of origin. And then I realized HEY: for most of my life, we did actually have ONE thing…
Before Recovery
Without recovery, I would still possess only the tools and beliefs of dysfunction; a fixed mindset with a Zero-sum mentality-- all conflicts resulting in a winner and a loser. Winning…
September 7
The deep seated angst of hoping and begging for peace and resolution- was relieved on the day which I received notice, by a lady whom I barely know, of my…
Introverting
To be introverted means that I prefer solitude and derive energy from quiet time, alone. I don’t completely hate socializing, but it is often too much for me and reuires…
uniformity v. solidarity
"You are either in agreement with (like) us or against us." That mentality is the ancestral curse and cycle which I strive to crush, one day at a time. My…
Pain
My grandmother visited my childhood home a few times a year and I alllllwaaaays looked forward to her arrival. She was radiant, popular, and very important. On rare occasions in…
What is Schadenfreude?
Though I am intimately familiar with the energy and attitudes which I have always identified in the “serves you right- types”, I have only just now discovered the term Schadenfreude. I…